“I struggle because of my weight. I’m 30 kilos overweight, and even with doctors, nutritionists and gyms, nothing changes. Clothes just don’t look good.”

If you’ve ever stood in front of a mirror and thought, “This isn’t me,” you’re not alone.

And whether it’s 5, 15, or 50 kilos—the weight isn’t the enemy. The real challenge is the mental mismatch between how we expect ourselves to look and how we see ourselves now.

We have an internal image formed over the years, shaped by our identity, our memories, and our values. So when that image doesn’t align with what’s reflected back, it can feel like a jolt to the system. We stop seeing ourselves and start seeing only what’s changed.

And often, we assume style disappears along with our former size.

But here’s the truth: Style isn’t size-dependent. Style is self-expression, not self-correction.

When You Stop Buying Clothes, You Stop Claim

ing Space

One of the most common things I see in women navigating body changes is what I call the “Style Pause.” It sounds like this:

“I’ll shop again when I lose the weight.”

“Nothing fits, so why bother?”

“It’s just temporary—I don’t want to waste money.”

And so, wardrobes shrink. Not just in options, but in self-respect. We stop being discerning. We buy the thing that simply fits, rather than the thing that flatters, delights, or aligns. Or we stop buying altogether, as if our value is on layaway until we hit some idealised goal weight.

This isn’t about vanity. It’s about visibility.

When you deny yourself clothing that feels good and reflects who you are, right now, you’re unintentionally sending yourself a message: “I’m not worth showing up for.”

Your weight has nothing to do with your value.  Your size doesn’t define your style.

Reclaiming Style at Any Size: What You Can Control

You can’t always control the scale. But you can control how you get dressed.

Here’s where to start:

1. Dress the body you have today.
If your shape has changed, it’s time to stop forcing yourself into silhouettes that no longer feel supportive. You deserve clothing that meets you where you are, not where you used to be.

2. Don’t settle—stay selective.
Too often, we swing between “nothing fits” and “this will do.” But style is about

intention. Ask yourself:

• Is this in a colour that flatters me?
• Does the fabric feel good on my skin?
• Does the shape support how I want to feel?

Your current body still deserves thoughtful choices.

3. Add the details.
Accessories aren’t “extra.” They’re essential. A scarf, a bold earring, a beautiful shoe—these tiny touches signal to yourself (and the world), “I care.” And that shifts how you carry yourself.

4. Build back trust through tools, not trends.
If you feel overwhelmed or unsure of what works anymore, don’t blame yourself. Style is a science, one you can learn. Things like body shape analysis, colour theory, and outfit formulas can make getting dressed feel effortless again.  When you dress in harmony with the b

ody you have today and express your personality through your style, you will be stylish, as your clothing will be an expression of who you are at your core.

The Mirror Isn’t the Enemy—It’s a Starting Point

If looking in the mirror feels hard right now, take that as a cue, n

ot a criticism.

Style isn’t about going back. It’s about coming home. To yourself. To who you are today. And dressing with that kind of honesty, clarity, and compassion? That’s true elegance.

You are no less stylish because your weight changed. You are no less worthy because your body looks different. You are not invisible. Not to me. And not to yourself, once you start dressing in alignment again.

Need help figuring out what flatters your shape right now?

Try my Free Body Shape Calculator Quiz to get personalized insights on what silhouettes work for your beautiful, evolving body.

Because style is not about who you were—it’s about who you are becoming.